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BDSM Article – Caning Technique

BDSM Article – Caning Technique

Caning Technique It requires remarkably little strength to deliver a memorable cane stroke. Think of it as a whip, not a stick. Think badminton, not tennis. Wrist alone (if your wrist is strong and supple) will be enough to satisfy many bottoms. Wrist and forearm combined suffice to deal an exhilarating cut. A wrist flick right at the end of the stroke can be devastating. Chastisers used to hold a book (try a Bible, if you’re very kinky) under their caning arms to limit the power of their strokes. A saber-stroke-style slash with shoulder, elbow, and wrist all fully involved ...

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Humor: So, You Want To Be a Dom?

Humor: So, You Want To Be a Dom?

A fun animated video about a guy that wants to be a Dom, but just doesn’t seem to get what that actually means!  A contribution from friend of Wasteland, “Libertine”. @LibertineVideo Script: © 2014 Libertine Video. So, What is a Dominant? (How to be a good Dominant) From “A Submissives Journey” Website Like the same question, what is a submissive, this is probably one of the biggest questions that is argued about in BDSM and Dominant submissive D/s relationships. Each person who has an interest in the lifestyle will undoubtedly have their own ideas about what makes a person dominant, ...

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BDSM Scene Profile – Mistress Arella

BDSM Scene Profile – Mistress Arella

Mistress Arella is a Czech pro and lifestyle Domme currently specializing in online arrangements. She studied International relations in Prague, later moved to London where she worked as a dominatrix for a few years. In 2010 she returned back to her home town but keeps traveling and looking for new slaves for her stable. We recently had the good fortune to be able to interview Mistress Arella recently about her philosophy and practices as a Domme...

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Weekly BDSM and Kinky Events Calendar

Weekly BDSM and Kinky Events Calendar

Compiled by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com from the handy weekly roundup at Kinky.com Looking for events, classes and other venues to meet, beat and perhaps beat new bdsm friends?  Here’s the schedule of notable ones around the country for the last week of April. SoJ Presents: Contracts and Written Agreements in Hierarchical Relationships (April 27th – SF) Because trust is such a big deal the topic of consent, sometimes written contracts and agreements ensure that trust is bound — by more than just bondage. Society of Janus is offering a class that discusses those written contracts and how to deal with them within ...

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Bondage Rope Work Basics

Bondage Rope Work Basics

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com Rope: Available in many, many types, qualities, thicknesses, strength and colors. For safety and comfort reasons you need to know about ropes if you plan to enter into erotic bondage. So this article is about rope. Allow us to first of all put an end to the discussion about cotton rope versus synthetic rope (nylon, polyprop, etcetera). It is largely a matter of personal preferences and comes down to the basic preference for natural materials or synthetic materials. These are the realistic pros and cons: * Natural ropes (cotton, hemp, silk) simply require more maintenance ...

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BDSM Community – Are We A Culture?

BDSM Community – Are We A Culture?

Occasionally the BDSM and kinky community looks with a certain amount of envy at the gay community, as a result of the fact that the latter has achieved quite a bit when it comes to general understanding for and acceptance of different lifestyles. One of the questions, asked in this respect, is the one about being a culture yes or no. Although that as such is a question that can be debated endlessly, fact of the matter is that the narrow - sexual only - approach does not seem to cover all aspects of erotic power exchange. So, are "we" a culture? Below is at least one answer to that question.

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Nipple Clamps – Tweaking The BDSM Situation

Nipple Clamps – Tweaking The BDSM Situation

The male nipples - generally speaking - are much smaller than the female ones. However, do not underestimate their erotic capabilities, just because they are smaller. Many men do not even realize the capabilities of their own nipples and to many men incorporating Nipple Clamps into your erotic power exchange play will be a sensational discovery.

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Bondage Basics – Leash Testing Tips

Bondage Basics – Leash Testing Tips

The phrase "collared slave" is widely spread, especially over the Internet. Question is, does she really want to wear a collar and experience the effects of it. That is where leash testing comes in.

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Japanese Bondage – History and Practices

Japanese Bondage – History and Practices

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com First of all, it takes a little time to explain about the background of Japanese bondage. You need to know about this, because you may miss a couple of the most intense effects if you do not. Japanese bondage is a combination of bondage-effects like most of us know them (power, helplessness), beauty and aesthetics (compare the Japanese “Ikebana” style of presenting flowers if you like) and very intense erotic massage (by the ropes and knots) that is very similar to acupuncture and acupressure techniques and shiatsu (Japanese massage). In the Oriental middle ages, bondage ...

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A How To Guide To Sensuous Spanking

A How To Guide To Sensuous Spanking

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland Spanking is a much more personal and intimate than other forms of discipline. There is nothing quite like the feel of your slave bent over your knee, bare ass arched upwards, quivering with a combination of fear and anticipation. For the bottom, too, it provides a very unique feeling – both physically and mentally. One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of discipline is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Both the spankee and ...

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The Anatomy of Suspension – Part 1: Engineering Your Suspension

The Anatomy of Suspension – Part 1: Engineering Your Suspension

by Hans Meijer, Featured Photo by Lew Rubens.  The above picture is what should always be in the forefront of your mind, when working with suspensions. The outer graphics represent the general situation of what the bondage should look like and where support should be, the inner ones of course are the human skeleton, front and back side. People with a spiritual background will easily recognize the Tree of Life in the schematic representation. And indeed it is. The Tree of Life originates from the Middle East (from the days well before Christ) and it is a philosophical approach to life, ...

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