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Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter C is for Collar

Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter C is for Collar

This part of Wastelandblog.com is for anyone getting ready to take their first bite of the forbidden fruit. The world of bdsm can at times seem a bit scary, or silly, at first and while it can be both it isn’t always either. Sometimes it’s the way to intense and amazing experiences and relationships. If you’ve heard some bdsm expression that puzzles you, or you just want to browse a little, a good place to start is with our own ‘glossary of bdsm words’ and our ‘illustrated guide to bdsm’. These are helpful for quickly finding out what a word ...

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Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter B is for Bottom

Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter B is for Bottom

This part of Wastelandblog.com is for anyone getting ready to take their first bite of the forbidden fruit. The world of bdsm can at times seem a bit scary, or silly, at first and while it can be both it isn’t always either. Sometimes it’s the way to intense and amazing experiences and relationships. If you’ve heard some bdsm expression that puzzles you, or you just want to browse a little, a good place to start is with our own ‘glossary of bdsm words’ and our ‘illustrated guide to bdsm’. These are helpful for quickly finding out what a word ...

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Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter A is for Anal

Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter A is for Anal

Glossary of BDSM Terms – The Letter A is for Anal This part of Wastelandblog.com is for anyone getting ready to take their first bite of the forbidden fruit. The world of bdsm can at times seem a bit scary, or silly, at first and while it can be both it isn’t always either. Sometimes it’s the way to intense and amazing experiences and relationships. If you’ve heard some bdsm expression that puzzles you, or you just want to browse a little, a good place to start is with our own ‘glossary of bdsm words’ and our ‘illustrated guide to ...

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Interview With BDSM Shibari Artists Nyssa Nevers and David Lawrence

Interview With BDSM Shibari Artists Nyssa Nevers and David Lawrence

Wasteland sat down with veteran Japanese shibari performance artists Nyssa Nevers and David Lawrence to hear their thoughts in this interview on a BDSM movie shoot we had done that day.  A very candid and informative interview with two VERY smart cookies! Watch the interview with bonus video at end… Synopsis from Nyssa Nevers film, “Because I Tease The Boys”… Nyssa Nevers loves to tease the boys, in fact it’s the only thing she likes more is the feel of tight ropes against her skin, the tingling of electricity on her body, the impact of the cane on her breasts ...

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New BDSM Info And Resource Site – Bondage Gazette

New BDSM Info And Resource Site – Bondage Gazette

BDSM, spanking, bondage and many other kinky sexual activities. They all have one thing in common: You need to know your trade. You want to play and you’ll want to play safe. That is what Bondage Gazette is all about. A new free publication of Wasteland.com, Bondage Gazette offers info on a wide variety of BDSM Culture and Technique articles, including: BDSM Safety Protocol The Bondage Community As A Culture Info on Fisting, Caning, Watersports, Fire Play, Body Modification, Nipple Play, CBT, and Pony & Slave Training  BDSM And The Law.  Know Your Rights If The Police Show Up...

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Shibari Rope Bondage – Swing High, Swing Low

Shibari Rope Bondage – Swing High, Swing Low

Goddess Starla has Violet right where she wants her – suspended in a remarkably complex and versatile Shibari rope suspension! This gives Starla great easy access to all of Violet for cropping, caning, flogging, and pussy play. After properly warming her slave up, Goddess flips her into a new position that allows her to fuck Violet with a strap-on, bringing her to a mind-blowing set of orgasms.

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How to Lose Gag Reflex?

How to Lose Gag Reflex?

Talking about oral sex, we can’t help but mention numerous obstacles that might come in its way – she might not be into it, he might not into be it, or the one that’s supposed to perform oral sex might have a strong gag reflex. Speaking of latter, it doesn’t matter if we’re talking girl-on-guy, gay or BBW dating, it can still create a lot of problems when it comes to fellatio. It’s no secret that a lot of people have a gag reflex while some of them even ‘suffer’ from its hypersensitive form. In any case, it’s a nuisance, ...

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My Partner Has a Kink I Can’t Handle: What Now?

My Partner Has a Kink I Can’t Handle: What Now?

For some people, being with a partner who’s vanilla is a deal-breaker. They regard their sexuality as a very important part of their life and aren’t prepared to invest any time and effort into a relationship where they can’t find fulfillment. On the other hand, if you’re the person who can’t handle someone’s kink, it’s only natural to feel inadequate to meet the needs of someone you care about or to feel pressured to do things that are too far outside of your comfort zone, such as perhaps transgender dating and threesomes, and you’d feel much better if that person ...

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First Threesomes – How Can You Prepare Yourself?

First Threesomes – How Can You Prepare Yourself?

Threesomes have been many people’s fantasy, regardless of their sexual preference. From straight and gay to singles who are into BBW dating, everyone has at least dreamed of being with more than one person in bed at the same time. However, only a few of us had a chance to fulfill such a fantasy. Now, if you’re thinking about being in a threesome or you actually have an opportunity for it but are not sure if you’re up for it, you’ll appreciate this list of tips and tricks that will help you prepare for one such experience.   The Threesomes ...

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Roles In BDSM: What Makes A Good Submissive?

Roles In BDSM: What Makes A Good Submissive?

As you probably know, some people like to be dominant and others enjoy being submissive. It really doesn’t matter if you’re in bed with a young woman, middle-aged man, or a gorgeous mature woman from the cougar dating scene; there will always be one side that is dominant and other that is submissive. If you enjoy being the latter, we suggest you stick around because we’re going to talk about the things you need to do if you want to be a great sub. Get on the Same Page with Your Partner Firstly, you need to have the talk with ...

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Is BDSM Healthy or Pathological?

Is BDSM Healthy or Pathological?

Let’s face it – BDSM and kink has been a regular part of everyday life for a while now. From group sex and swingers to BBW and transgender dating, being kinky isn’t as looked down on as it was, for example, two or three decades ago. However, there’s still some prejudice regarding the main honcho of the kinky world. BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, and masochism is sometimes still being scrutinized as a condition rather than a sexual preference. In that name, let’s try to answer the question of whether BDSM is healthy or pathological. Subject ...

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Roles in BDSM: What Makes a Good Dominatrix?

Roles in BDSM: What Makes a Good Dominatrix?

If you’re reading this blog, chances are you’ve already heard of BDSM and a Dominatrix and know what it is. So, you probably have this idea of BDSM being as kinky as, for example, BBW dating, but also involving chains, whips, ropes, leather straps, gimp suits, and more. And while you wouldn’t be wrong to assume that, BDSM isn’t only limited to what we’ve mentioned above. On the contrary, there are quite a few important aspects of this sexual lifestyle, one of which suggests assuming roles in the goal of power exchange. That said, let’s take a quick look at ...

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Top 5 BDSM Podcasts You Have to Listen to

Top 5 BDSM Podcasts You Have to Listen to

Are you unsure whether BDSM is for you? Do you have a hard time determining if ropes, chains, and whips are going to suit you better than, for example, BBW dating? Were you thinking about becoming a dominatrix but didn’t really know where to begin? Luckily, these and all other BDSM-related questions can be easily answered – all thanks to podcasts. Podcasts are a great way to educate yourself on a number of topics while sometimes even laughing your ass off or listening to hot stories. This especially applies to BDSM podcasts, of which we’ve picked the top 5 you ...

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Can BDSM Help You Find Self Acceptance?

Can BDSM Help You Find Self Acceptance?

Absolutely – Everyone is kinky in some way – it’s just a matter of whether they explore their BDSM fantasies or push them under the rug. Out of all the kinky people we know, most have been raised in conservative households where sex was seen as something inappropriate. Mind you, even if your parents weren’t conservative per se, it’s more than enough if they never talked to you about sex to feel embarrassed or ashamed about fully exploring and accepting your sexual side. Regardless of whether you’re into transgender dating, which is often viewed as quite kinky, or want to ...

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BDSM Couples Therapy

BDSM Couples Therapy

Eventually, many people find themselves in a couples councilor’s therapy office trying to deal with issues that often stem from the bedroom. No matter what kind of a commitment you find yourself in, and whether you’re in a short-term or a long-term relationship with someone you met via a BBW dating site, there are bound to be bumps in the road. Today, we’d like to explore a different kind of couples counseling – BDSM therapy – that begins in the bedroom and eventually encompasses every element of a relationship. BDSM Therapy Session BSDM is used as a couples therapy technique ...

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