This part of Wastelandblog.com is for anyone getting ready to take their first bite of the forbidden fruit. The world of bdsm can at times seem a bit scary, or silly, at first and while it can be both it isn’t always either. Sometimes it’s the way to intense and amazing experiences and relationships. If you’ve heard some bdsm expression that puzzles you, or you just want to browse a little, a good place to start is with our own ‘glossary of bdsm words’ and our ‘illustrated guide to bdsm’. These are helpful for quickly finding out what a word or expression means (in the glossary), or delving a little deeper for more details. We’ve also added some Wasteland.com original photos to each section just to make it a bit more visually pleasing to the eye.
Today’s Letter is “C”
Candles – are used in play that involves dripping hot candlewax onto the skin of the submissive. Plain white paraffin candles are best, while coloured or beeswax candles are more likely to burn. Generally soft candles have a lower melting point and are safer.
Canes – come in a variety of lengths and thicknesses and are traditionally made of rattan, although more recently man-made materials like fiberglass have become available. Depending upon how the cane is applied it can simply sting or it can raise severe welts. Usually applied to the ass but occasionally ( in school-room role-play) to the palms of the hands.
Cat ‘o’ nine tails – was originally used by the British Navy to flog uppity sailors, and was a leather whip with nine thongs which were sometimes weighted with lead to produce a devastating punishment that could strip the skin off right down to the bone. Nowadays the cat ‘o’ nine tails is often a term used to refer to any multi-thonged whip.
Catharsis – is the purging of emotions or tension. People may bring to bdsm sessions issues of self-esteem and past psychological trauma. The intense emotional charge generated by some bdsm encounters can be the catalyst which brings these issues to the surface. This can be either good or bad, depending on how its dealt with. It is potentially dangerous to stray into deep bdsm play unless you know what you’re doing.
Clamps – are mechanical devices that come in various shapes and sizes but are all designed to cause pain through pinching or squeezing. They can include nipple clamps, crocodile clips or even the humble clothes-pin and are applied to erogenous areas such as nipples, cocks, balls or the vulva. Weights are sometimes added to increase the intensity of the pain.
Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) – is the ‘torture’ or involvement in painful erotic play of the male genitalia (cock and balls). Methods may include clamps, clips, tight bindings of various sorts, whips, crops, electrodes, and hard-core addicts have even hammered nails through their unfortunate appendages.
Cockrings – are, as the name suggests, rings that go around your cock. Usually they go around the base of it, behind the balls. The penis becomes erect when the blood vessels at its base constrict (because of arousal), trapping blood in the cock and causing it to swell and prolonging erection. They’re often used as an aid to impotence, or simply to prolong and increase the pleasure of an erection. Made of leather, with adjustable snaps, so you can tighten or loosen them to fit, rubber or metal.
Collar – a collar used in bdsm is in physical appearance often like a dog-collar, made of leather or a chain, and worn around the neck (although some favour a symbolic thin gold chain for everyday wear). The conventional collar may simply be used as a prop in bdsm ‘play’ to denote a negotiated submission for a llimited play session, but it can also be used as more permanent symbol of ownership in some ongoing Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationships.
Collaring – usually means the formalising of a relationship between a dominant and submissive. There is no set procedure. It may be a simple understanding between two people or a ceremony attended by friends where vows are exchanged and the submissive is physically ‘collared’ (given a collar to wear). The collar itself may be symbolic or real. Collaring is often likened to a marriage, although of course it is not a legal contract.
Contract (Slave Contract) – is an agreement which formally sets out the roles, responsibilities and limits of a Domination/submission relationship, sometimes called a slave or ownership contract.
Counting Strokes – is a ritualized counting of the strokes of a caning, with the recipient sometimes being required to thank the dominant after each stroke. If the submissive miscounts a stroke or remains silent, then the stroke may be repeated.
Cross-Dressing – is dressing in the clothes of the opposite gender, and is a reasonably common fetish.
Cruxifiction – as practised in BDSM usually refers to a kind of bondage where the submissive is tied to a cross. Care needs to be taken to make sure that the weight is supported evenly and that the submissive can breathe properly. More rarely, hard-core devotees go further and actually have themselves nailed to a cross.
Cutting – generally means slicing the skin with a sharp implement (knife or scalpel) so that blood is shed
Cuffs – can be made out of leather, cloth or metal and are designed to restrain the wrists or ankles.
Cybersex ( online sex, virtual sex, virtual screening ) – most commonly involves two or more people, who are communicating in real-time via their computers, constructing a shared sexual fantasy and describing to each other how they feel and what they are ‘doing’. A bit like an interactive erotic story.
