by Jason Roberts The realm of BDSM expands into many different areas and the acronym actually breaks down into three different definitions: BD – Bondage and Discipline DS – Domination and Submission SM – Sadomasochism Though many people see BDSM as a taboo sexual practice, in reality, it is something that many people do. Although you may not know it, we all have done some form of BDSM play in the bedroom. This month’s encyclopedia deals strictly with words related to BDSM.
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by Violet Midnight Maybe you and your partner are happily open in your sex life, sharing your deepest desires and freely indulging each other’s fantasies and fetishes. But what happens when he asks for something that makes you feel uncomfortable? First off, don’t think you are alone in this situation. There is even an expression for the partner of someone who indulges their partner’s fetish even if it not their cup of tea: GGG. This stands for “good, giving and game.” A GGG partner may have reacted negatively at first learning of their partner’s particular form of kink, but out ...
Read More »How Kinky Is Too Kinky? Part 2
by Violet Midnight What do you do if your partner wants to indulge a secret fantasy or fetish that you are not comfortable with? We have already discussed potential physical concerns (such as pain, discomfort or health risks) in Part One. But what if your partner wants you to engage in sexual activities that your are uncomfortable with on an emotional level? Maybe the activity disgusts you, or makes you afraid for reasons you can’t quite put your finger on. Maybe you feel embarrassed by it, or think your friends would disapprove or think badly of you if they knew ...
Read More »My Fantasies Scare Me! What if I get too into SM?
by R. Jellinghaus Sometimes people who are attracted by some aspects of SM worry that they will immediately go from enjoying spanking and light bondage to fisting and golden showers. Nothing could be further from the truth. SM is a blanket term for a huge variety of alternative ways to make love. This FAQ list has outlined some of the possibilities. No one I know enjoys everything on this list; everyone has their own preferences and levels of tolerance. Some like bondage but dislike pain; some like latex but dislike leather; some enjoy piercing but not whipping; some like tickling ...
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by H. Meijer Here are some useful tips for physical safety. These have much more to do with your attitude toward your partner(s) and toward erotic power exchange in general. Read some good books The more you read about erotic power exchange, the more you’ll understand about it and the safer you’ll be able to play. It’s also very useful if you study some of the basic anatomy of the human body. Know about safety If you know about safety you can be a better judge of the situation. This is even more important for bottoms and submissives, especially if ...
Read More »Bondage Basics, Part 1
by R. Jellinghaus Why is bondage fun? Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can’t prevent them, is a powerful turn-on. “I’m going to make you come and there’s nothing you can do about it.” It’s a very strong statement of trust to let someone bind you helplessly, or even non-helplessly. How erotic, to feel yourself spread open, wanton and wet, and to see your lover kneeling between your legs, ready to use you for their pleasure — or to pleasure you unendurably….
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by R. Jellinghaus Be very careful about tying anything around the neck; anything that puts any pressure AT ALL on the front of the neck can lead to unconsciousness quickly, as the carotid arteries go right to the brain. Likewise be careful with gags or things tied in the mouth; as well as restricting breathing, they can trigger a gag reflex, which could be really nasty if the bottom can’t get the gag out. See another question on safewords for use while gagged. Also, be aware that if someone is standing for any length of time in any sort of ...
Read More »BDSM Movie – It’s a Good Day for a Hard Flogging
Mistresses Irony is in the mood to play with her perfect and perpetually obedient submissive. Ava is not new to this and loves the attention adorned upon her by her Mistress, especially if flogging and electro is involved. She loves the sensations, the filling up of her pussy, the teasing….just the though of it makes her ache for release and release she does.
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