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Roles In BDSM: What Makes A Good Submissive?

Roles In BDSM: What Makes A Good Submissive?

As you probably know, some people like to be dominant and others enjoy being submissive. It really doesn’t matter if you’re in bed with a young woman, middle-aged man, or a gorgeous mature woman from the cougar dating scene; there will always be one side that is dominant and other that is submissive.

If you enjoy being the latter, we suggest you stick around because we’re going to talk about the things you need to do if you want to be a great sub.

Get on the Same Page with Your Partner

Firstly, you need to have the talk with your significant other about your roles in bed. You need to be on the same page before you engage in sexual intercourse. Secondly, you must clearly state that you want to be the submissive partner. This way, your partner will know that he or she is supposed to be the dominant one and they’ll know what to do. This talk can be awkward, but it will also determine the roles in bed and that is quite important.

What Does It Mean to Be a Sub?

Pinpointing the universal definition of a submissive partner is not an easy task simply because roles in bed are susceptible to various individual interpretations. However, the simplest explanation of a sub is the following – a sub is a person who enjoys being treated like an object of another person’s desires. In other words, a submissive person is a man or a woman who willingly surrenders all the power to their sexual partner.

How to Be a Great Sub?

Encourage Your Partner to Assert Dominance

Some people like the idea of being the dominant partner, but they don’t know how to achieve that. A good submissive partner has to find a way to encourage the other person to assert their dominance. You can start by showing them how submissive you really are. Let them know that they have full control over your body. That will help them get into the role.

Ask them for Permission

One of the best ways to make your partner feel dominant is asking them for permission to do anything. It doesn’t matter if you want to change the position or touch yourself, you need to ask them first. This way, you’ll make them feel like they’re your master. This will provide both of you with the adrenaline rush and sexual pleasure you’re craving.

Let Them Tie You up

The easiest way to be a good sub is to let your partner tie you up. Bondage sex is something that millions of people all around the world enjoy and the main reason for this is the sensation of complete control over someone else’s body. Therefore, allow your significant other to tie you up and they’ll feel incredibly powerful.

Ask to Be Punished

It’s safe to say that best submissive lovers are the ones who ask to be punished. Being strapped and tied is great, but asking someone to punish you for being a bad girl or boy is something dominant people are longing for. Executing the punishment provides a submissive with an incredible sexual pleasure and rush.

Don’t Forget to Establish Boundaries and The Safe Word

Role-playing in bed can be a lot of fun, but some people tend to get carried away. Besides pleasing their partner, a good sub also has to establish boundaries and the famous safe word. Being submissive is exciting, but you also have to be responsible. Remember – safety comes first.

About Simon Blackthorne

Simon Blackthorne
Simon Blackthorne is a Dungeonmaster at Wasteland.com. With over 30 years experience as a MaleDom, he brings a wealth of experience, knowledge and wit to the BDSM scene. Simon was one of original directors and contributors to Wasteland starting in 1995 and is a respected leader in the New England BDSM community. You can see Simon's BDSM Video Demonstrations and Tutorials at Wasteland.com
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