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Roles in BDSM: What Makes a Good Dominatrix?

Roles in BDSM: What Makes a Good Dominatrix?

If you’re reading this blog, chances are you’ve already heard of BDSM and a Dominatrix and know what it is. So, you probably have this idea of BDSM being as kinky as, for example, BBW dating, but also involving chains, whips, ropes, leather straps, gimp suits, and more.

And while you wouldn’t be wrong to assume that, BDSM isn’t only limited to what we’ve mentioned above. On the contrary, there are quite a few important aspects of this sexual lifestyle, one of which suggests assuming roles in the goal of power exchange.

That said, let’s take a quick look at what does it take to be a good dominant female, also known as the dominatrix.

 

It Starts with the Attitude

The first thing you must do before assuming the role of the dominatrix is to ensure you have the right attitude for it. This role doesn’t only mean that you’re ‘allowed’ to slap, scratch, whip and paddle your submissive partner – the roleplay is more complex than that.

That’s why we believe it’s essential to establish your boundaries, wants, likes and dislikes about the dominatrix role. Otherwise, you’ll find out very quickly that you don’t know what to do next. Assuming control is harder than releasing it due to the fact that the majority of the roleplay depends on your own preferences. Consequently, you won’t be able to have a fun time practicing BDSM if you don’t know what you want.

Finally, there are more ways to be a dominatrix. While some women prefer being sexual, others perform little to no sexual acts during their BDSM roleplay. Be that as it may, you should be able to understand the satisfaction, risks, and rewards of being a dominatrix so that everything can fall into place.

 

Equip Yourself

Once you’ve established what is it that you’re into, you’ll need to equip yourself with all the right tools.

Firstly, you need good verbal communication skills. In case you haven’t realized it by now, talking to a submissive the right way is paramount, so make sure your attitude shines through the way you communicate with your partner.

Secondly, get all the tools you need. This completely depends on what you and your partner feel like doing. If your guy prefers pegging, then you’ll need a strap-on dildo. On the other hand, if you’re into whipping and paddling and your partner’s fine with that, make sure you get the proper equipment for the job.

 

Safety and Care

BDSM is all fun and games, but it’s also important to stay safe and care for your partner regardless of how hard he wants you to whip his behind.

This is where the safe word comes in. Before each session, sit down to talk about the boundaries and think of a memorable safe word. For instance, you can suggest something uncommon and specific like “guacamole” or “Rottweiler” thus making sure that your partner will remember it.

Also, try to care for your partner constantly. Even when you’re at that point where what you’re doing brings the physical pain but you know your guy was always into it before, you should still ask yourself if maybe he’s hurting and not enjoying it.

 

About Simon Blackthorne

Simon Blackthorne
Simon Blackthorne is a Dungeonmaster at Wasteland.com. With over 30 years experience as a MaleDom, he brings a wealth of experience, knowledge and wit to the BDSM scene. Simon was one of original directors and contributors to Wasteland starting in 1995 and is a respected leader in the New England BDSM community. You can see Simon's BDSM Video Demonstrations and Tutorials at Wasteland.com
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