Humor: So, You Want To Be a Dom?

Humor: So, You Want To Be a Dom?

A fun animated video about a guy that wants to be a Dom, but just doesn’t seem to get what that actually means!  A contribution from friend of Wasteland, “Libertine”. @LibertineVideo Script: © 2014 Libertine Video. So, What is a Dominant? (How to be a good Dominant) From “A Submissives Journey” Website Like the same question, what is a submissive, this is probably one of the biggest questions that is argued about in BDSM and Dominant submissive D/s relationships. Each person who has an interest in the lifestyle will undoubtedly have their own ideas about what makes a person dominant, ...

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Kinky Weekly Events Roundup

Kinky Weekly Events Roundup

Kinky Weekly Events Roundup Posted by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com Info Courtesy of our friends at Kinky.com USA Corncon 9 – Illinois  (June 21st) —Corncon’s offerings include a BDSM 101 class, some Master or Mistress classes and other workshops and discussions that are important for all BDSM, fetish, and Leather lovers to keep abreast of in this ever-changing, lovely world of special sexy kinky times.  But there aren’t just hands-off tutorials and chatting, there are some hands-on interactions where you’ll get to show your mad skills with the ropes and the floggers too. Good times, good times. Mid-Summer Night’s Dream: Queen’s Cup – Indiana ...

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BDSM Scene Profile – Mistress Arella

BDSM Scene Profile – Mistress Arella

Mistress Arella is a Czech pro and lifestyle Domme currently specializing in online arrangements. She studied International relations in Prague, later moved to London where she worked as a dominatrix for a few years. In 2010 she returned back to her home town but keeps traveling and looking for new slaves for her stable. We recently had the good fortune to be able to interview Mistress Arella recently about her philosophy and practices as a Domme...

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Tom of Finland to make postage stamp history!

Tom of Finland to make postage stamp history!

Finland plans to issue a set of postage stamps said to be the first ever to feature homoerotic art, and maybe the first erotic art of any persuasion, The Guardian reported Thursday. The three stamps, due to be issued September 8, display paintings of naked male buttocks, a mustachioed man in black leather boots, and the naked man on whose shoulders he is seated. The paintings are by the late Tom of Finland, the pseudonym of Touko Laaksonen.

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Weekly BDSM and Kinky Events Calendar

Weekly BDSM and Kinky Events Calendar

Compiled by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com from the handy weekly roundup at Kinky.com Looking for events, classes and other venues to meet, beat and perhaps beat new bdsm friends?  Here’s the schedule of notable ones around the country for the last week of April. SoJ Presents: Contracts and Written Agreements in Hierarchical Relationships (April 27th – SF) Because trust is such a big deal the topic of consent, sometimes written contracts and agreements ensure that trust is bound — by more than just bondage. Society of Janus is offering a class that discusses those written contracts and how to deal with them within ...

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The Web’s Original BDSM and Fetish Fiction Library BDSMCafe Gets A Facelift!

The Web’s Original BDSM and Fetish Fiction Library BDSMCafe Gets A Facelift!

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com. Originally launched in 1997, BDSMCafe.com has been a fixture on the web for over 15 years now.  Staying with it’s original mission of being a place for authors of BDSM and Fetish short stories, novels, poetry and informative articles on a variety of topics, BDSMCafe is pleased to re-launch with a significant facelift!  The new design is “responsive” (meaning it displays on all computers, devices, smart phones, etc), and offers over 5000 stories, serialized novels and other compelling text for the bdsm aficionado. Come take a look at the new platform and if you are ...

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Diversity Within The BDSM And Kinky Community

Diversity Within The BDSM And Kinky Community

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com As a follow up to the many BDSM and Fetish holiday parties are being held, it seemed like a good time to take a look at diversity in the kinky communities. What came first? The common prejudice about BDSM and erotic power exchange or the sometimes wrong charisma, erotic power exchange has? And is this charisma at least partially responsible for the prejudice? Without doubt one influences the other. On one hand we have the ineradicable social prejudice, based on misinformation (mainly by mainstream media) and psychiatrists ventilating outdated or simply ill-based opinions. On the ...

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Bondage Rope Work Basics

Bondage Rope Work Basics

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com Rope: Available in many, many types, qualities, thicknesses, strength and colors. For safety and comfort reasons you need to know about ropes if you plan to enter into erotic bondage. So this article is about rope. Allow us to first of all put an end to the discussion about cotton rope versus synthetic rope (nylon, polyprop, etcetera). It is largely a matter of personal preferences and comes down to the basic preference for natural materials or synthetic materials. These are the realistic pros and cons: * Natural ropes (cotton, hemp, silk) simply require more maintenance ...

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BDSM Community – Are We A Culture?

BDSM Community – Are We A Culture?

Occasionally the BDSM and kinky community looks with a certain amount of envy at the gay community, as a result of the fact that the latter has achieved quite a bit when it comes to general understanding for and acceptance of different lifestyles. One of the questions, asked in this respect, is the one about being a culture yes or no. Although that as such is a question that can be debated endlessly, fact of the matter is that the narrow - sexual only - approach does not seem to cover all aspects of erotic power exchange. So, are "we" a culture? Below is at least one answer to that question.

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Nipple Clamps – Tweaking The BDSM Situation

Nipple Clamps – Tweaking The BDSM Situation

The male nipples - generally speaking - are much smaller than the female ones. However, do not underestimate their erotic capabilities, just because they are smaller. Many men do not even realize the capabilities of their own nipples and to many men incorporating Nipple Clamps into your erotic power exchange play will be a sensational discovery.

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The Stockroom & Wasteland.com Present… Noir Lustre – A Fan-Friendly “Play Party” during AEE

The Stockroom & Wasteland.com Present… Noir Lustre – A Fan-Friendly “Play Party” during AEE

AVN, The Stockroom and Wasteland wanted to open the BDSM world to the kink curious, not just those on the inside, and having a party at a fan show that is open for the fans was the obvious answer. It can be intimidating for someone new, or for those who don’t know the right person to get them into the private parties, so they wanted to do something that is open to everyone.

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A Wasteland BDSM Holiday Video Greeting

A Wasteland BDSM Holiday Video Greeting

Just for fun….. From an original Wasteland.com bondage movie production. Twas’ the night before Christmas when all through Santa’s workshop the elves are all hustling and bustling away. Except one elf that is. Head-Elf Irony had to hire a lot of extra help this year, it seems the demand for “toys” had increased. Elf Cheri seemed to have all the right qualities for the job, how could Irony have been so wrong. In this “Most Happiest Time Of The Year” let’s not forget the entire “Santa Baby” thing didn’t come into play until fairly recently. Santa, as a re-imagination of ...

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Bondage Basics – Leash Testing Tips

Bondage Basics – Leash Testing Tips

The phrase "collared slave" is widely spread, especially over the Internet. Question is, does she really want to wear a collar and experience the effects of it. That is where leash testing comes in.

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Japanese Bondage – History and Practices

Japanese Bondage – History and Practices

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland.com First of all, it takes a little time to explain about the background of Japanese bondage. You need to know about this, because you may miss a couple of the most intense effects if you do not. Japanese bondage is a combination of bondage-effects like most of us know them (power, helplessness), beauty and aesthetics (compare the Japanese “Ikebana” style of presenting flowers if you like) and very intense erotic massage (by the ropes and knots) that is very similar to acupuncture and acupressure techniques and shiatsu (Japanese massage). In the Oriental middle ages, bondage ...

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A How To Guide To Sensuous Spanking

A How To Guide To Sensuous Spanking

by Simon Blackthorne at Wasteland Spanking is a much more personal and intimate than other forms of discipline. There is nothing quite like the feel of your slave bent over your knee, bare ass arched upwards, quivering with a combination of fear and anticipation. For the bottom, too, it provides a very unique feeling – both physically and mentally. One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of discipline is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Both the spankee and ...

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