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How to Introduce New Sex Toys in the Bedroom

How to Introduce New Sex Toys in the Bedroom

Even though it’s a common opinion, sex toys are by no means reserved for fetishists, BDSM folk and those who have transgender dating as their sexual preference. In reality, sex toys can and should be used by all because experimenting with them usually leads to amazing experiences.

However, even people who do muster up the courage to possibly try bringing a sex toy into their sex life don’t really know how to do it properly. That’s why today we wanted to talk about a couple of examples of how to ease yourself and your partner into incorporating a sex toy into your intimate relationship.

Making Conversation

If we’re being completely honest here, sex toys are exactly that big a deal – these gadgets have been around for quite some time now, and nowadays they come in so many shapes and sizes that it’s nearly impossible to know precisely what each and every one of them does.

This is why you probably should make a big deal of bringing a sex toy into the bedroom. It most likely will spice up your sex life and bring you and your partner more pleasure, but you should make a fuss about it just because you haven’t used it before. Relax and casually bring up sex toys as a conversation starter so that you don’t give them too much importance, as this way your partner is much more likely to accept such a proposal.


Reverse Psychology

Similarly to our first example, you can begin discussing sex toys with your partner in a manner that accentuates just how better a human partner is than any vibrator, cock ring, fleshlight or ribbed condom. This way, your partner will get a confidence boost, and there’s a good chance that they’ll want to try out having intercourse with you while a sex toy is involved.

When have you seen a vibrator making eye contact while satisfying someone? Have you heard of a massager cuddling with a woman after she orgasms? Of course, you didn’t, which is precisely why this argument works.

Facts and Fiction

Remember when we’ve mentioned that the popular opinions only see sex toys as tools to be used by the kinky? Well, that’s not the end of it, as the other side of this opinion believes that sex toys are useless or – even worse – dangerous.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s a fact that people who prefer atypical sexual variations such as transgender of BDSM use sex toys more often than those with typical preferences, but saying that sex toys are dangerous or useless is just plain dumb.

It’s been scientifically proven that these devices create wonders when it comes to sexual satisfaction, which is not strange at all considering they have been specially designed to do exactly that. As long as they are intact and/or their batteries aren’t empty, you can rely on sex toys to do their job.

About Simon Blackthorne

Simon Blackthorne
Simon Blackthorne is a Dungeonmaster at Wasteland.com. With over 30 years experience as a MaleDom, he brings a wealth of experience, knowledge and wit to the BDSM scene. Simon was one of original directors and contributors to Wasteland starting in 1995 and is a respected leader in the New England BDSM community. You can see Simon's BDSM Video Demonstrations and Tutorials at Wasteland.com
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