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Can BDSM Help You Find Self Acceptance?

Can BDSM Help You Find Self Acceptance?

Absolutely – Everyone is kinky in some way – it’s just a matter of whether they explore their BDSM fantasies or push them under the rug.

Out of all the kinky people we know, most have been raised in conservative households where sex was seen as something inappropriate. Mind you, even if your parents weren’t conservative per se, it’s more than enough if they never talked to you about sex to feel embarrassed or ashamed about fully exploring and accepting your sexual side.

Regardless of whether you’re into transgender dating, which is often viewed as quite kinky, or want to spice things up in the bedroom with your partner of 20 years, one thing is for sure – BDSM can help you find self-acceptance and enjoy sex any way you like instead of just sticking to the missionary pose purely for procreation.

Explore Your Kink without Jumping in

Your feelings of shame or fear of exploration can stem from many different factors, from religious teachings and a conservative environment in which you grew up to various kinds of abuse. To break these barriers, you can explore your kink by reading stories and see if they turn you on.

This way, you can explore a lot of topics, including the dominant/submissive roles, rough sex, or bondage. We suggest you read kinky stories that deal with these elements of BDSM and see how hot you find them. Read both fiction and non-fiction because each can give you a different kind of insight on the topic. Fiction is based on fantasy, and you can run wild with it, while non-fiction is based on reality, and you can use it to see how things actually unfold in real life when it comes to BDSM.

If these topics appeal to you, move on to the next level of exploration.

Watch Movies and Check out BDSM ‘Munches’

After you’ve visualized BDSM fantasies and liked it, you can move on to watching kinky movies and see how you react. Maybe you’ll find it overwhelming, which is perfectly fine because the point of BDSM is that you can dive in as much as you want and stop at any time.

If watching movies turns you on, and you want to know more, the next step is searching for BDSM ‘munches’ on the web. BDSM munches are for meeting people and asking questions. This is the first point of human contact, but no scenes take place yet. Chances are you’ll meet people who come from a conservative background and have found ways to accept their kinkiness and sexuality in a constructive way.

An Open Mind Leads to Self-Acceptance

Being open to what you feel, read, discuss, watch and eventually take part in is a beautiful thing. By taking these small steps, you gradually start to own who you are and accept it without feeling any shame that was previously a burden on your shoulders. When you accept yourself without judgment, you can experience joy on the highest level possible, and this applies to every sphere of life, your sexuality included.

 

About Simon Blackthorne

Simon Blackthorne
Simon Blackthorne is a Dungeonmaster at Wasteland.com. With over 30 years experience as a MaleDom, he brings a wealth of experience, knowledge and wit to the BDSM scene. Simon was one of original directors and contributors to Wasteland starting in 1995 and is a respected leader in the New England BDSM community. You can see Simon's BDSM Video Demonstrations and Tutorials at Wasteland.com
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