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BDSM Couples Therapy

BDSM Couples Therapy

Eventually, many people find themselves in a couples councilor’s therapy office trying to deal with issues that often stem from the bedroom. No matter what kind of a commitment you find yourself in, and whether you’re in a short-term or a long-term relationship with someone you met via a BBW dating site, there are bound to be bumps in the road. Today, we’d like to explore a different kind of couples counseling – BDSM therapy – that begins in the bedroom and eventually encompasses every element of a relationship.

BDSM Therapy Session

BSDM is used as a couples therapy technique to benefit a relationship using a little power play. In most cases, BSDM counselors are not licensed therapists but can offer advice on how a little kink in the bedroom can help overcome relationship issues.

bdsm couple therapyThe notion behind the idea to use BDSM for therapeutic purposes comes down to one simple element of kink – openness towards new things. People who open their minds to BDSM are likely to open their minds towards other things in a relationship.

A BDSM therapy session is a counseling session where the therapist works with a couple to open the lines of communication when it comes to taking on submissive or dominant roles in the bedroom. The therapist can suggest books or videos on fetishes she thinks might help the couple, and her ultimate goal is to improve a couple’s sex life to bring them closer.

Many people are often ashamed to discuss their fantasies with their partners, but in therapy people can break their own barriers, becoming more encouraged to talk about sex-related issues and issues in a relationship as a whole.

 

Around the Session

Obviously, couples who seek BDSM therapy have a lot of homework to do at home. In addition to exploring how they feel in a different role, another aspect of introducing kink into their relationship revolves around the ‘scene of the crime’ – their bedroom. Many BDSM therapists suggest a bedroom makeover that will make it easier for the couple to get in the mood. Also, a therapist can go with the couple to sex shops and help them pick out kinky outfits and toys.

BDSM therapy can be very effective for couples who are struggling in the bedroom for whatever reason, and this includes people who’ve been together for so long that they consider their sex life too vanilla or lukewarm. By improving their sex life by encouraging open communication about BDSM fantasies, this type of couples therapy can be highly effective. When people are happy in the bedroom, they feel intimate and close to their partner, which motivates them to resolve any other issues surrounding the relationship.

Removing some of the barriers of communication that make couples angry or frustrated with one another not only ensures a more fulfilling sex life but also transcends beyond the bedroom. It creates trust in other aspects of the relationship, helping save it or helping it thrive. Exploring fantasies in a caring, compassionate way is the goal of BDSM couples therapy, and an increasing number of people are turning towards this form of counseling for help.

 

About Simon Blackthorne

Simon Blackthorne
Simon Blackthorne is a Dungeonmaster at Wasteland.com. With over 30 years experience as a MaleDom, he brings a wealth of experience, knowledge and wit to the BDSM scene. Simon was one of original directors and contributors to Wasteland starting in 1995 and is a respected leader in the New England BDSM community. You can see Simon's BDSM Video Demonstrations and Tutorials at Wasteland.com
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